It is the national day of love, aka Valentine’s Day, so I thought I’d take today to talk about loving yourself. We all know that if you don’t love yourself first, then it’s often difficult to love other people well. I’ve listed out three ways to show yourself some love today. Give it a read and I know you’ll be inspired to think about all of the wonderful things that are great about you!
How to Love Yourself – Three Tips:
I would guess that if you asked the people around you, they could come up with plenty of amazing things about you. You’re likely the only person that doesn’t see it. No more, lady! We’re figuring out what’s awesome about you and soaking it all in today.
1. Get to know yourself.
Take a personality test (or two) to understand yourself better.
The Enneagram – This one is my favorite and is incredibly revealing and freeing. Here is a description of what The Enneagram is:
The Enneagram is a powerful tool for personal and collective transformation. Stemming from the Greek words ennea (nine) and grammos (a written symbol), the nine-pointed Enneagram symbol represents nine distinct strategies for relating to the self, others and the world. Each Enneagram type has a different pattern of thinking, feeling and acting that arises from a deeper inner motivation or worldview. – The Narrative Enneagram
The Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator is a self-report inventory designed to identify a person’s personality type, strengths, and preferences. The questionnaire was developed by Isabel Myers and her mother Katherine Briggs based on their work with Carl Jung’s theory of personality types. – Very Well Mind
This will give you an opportunity to learn more about yourself. You may not know that you show love or receive love in a particular way. It’s possible that you don’t realize that a certain career or role in life might be perfect for you because of how you are. Or, that you have needs that you might have thought were unnecessary, indulgent, or selfish, but are actually part of yourself that you’ve been ignoring. These are all things that you can discover through personality tests and getting to know yourself.
2. List out all of the random things you love about yourself.
Here are some examples (some of these are things I love about me and some I made up):
I love that:
I make people laugh.
I’m always laughing (even at my own jokes).
I enjoy quality time with people and can easily get to know them.
I’m a good listener.
I can go with the flow.
I’m the oldest sibling and am sometimes a little bossy.
I can make decisions easily.
I trust my gut.
I have chosen incredible friends to spend life with.
I enjoy the summertime.
Dogs love me.
I’m a clean freak.
I like funny morning radio shows.
I see the best in people.
Taking care of nature is important to me.
Okay. That helped to get you started. Now, go make your list.
3. Be your own best friend.
Let me explain this one. Say you’re at the gym with your BFF and you two are at the end of the workout. You are both tired, you’ve pushed yourself so hard, but you’re finishing up and you have two minutes left. If your best friend was like, “I can’t do this. It’s too hard!”, would you say, “You’re right. Quit.”? Heck no you would not! You’d say, “You got this. One more round. You’re almost there. You’ve made it this far. You can do it!” You’d cheer for them as if their life depended on it. That’s the level of belief, support, and love you need to have for yourself. Love yourself that fiercely. Cheer for yourself at that level. Remember that you’re worth fighting for just like you fight for others.