What does that even mean? You might’ve heard people talk about “intentional living” or maybe you’ve seen me post about going from “overwhelmed to intentional” and you’re still unsure about this idea of living intentionally. I’ve been there and today I am helping you understand what that means for you and how to get started. Let’s begin with a quote on what it means to live unintentionally.
Unintentional living eventually reaches a dead end, and to move in any direction requires a decision or a turn. – Chrystal Evans Hurst
For many of you, you’ve been living unintentionally for a long time. You’ve spent your life going through the motions, making it through each day, and possibly even living for the weekend or wishing for vacation because your reality isn’t what you hoped it would be.
BUT, what if you could go through life every day as if it mattered? The decisions you made were on purpose and you lived in a way that honored yourself and your values.
That’s what living intentionally means to me. And we each have our own way of living intentionally. Here are some examples of mine:
- Spending time with Jesus each morning before I begin my day.
- Having only things I love in my home.
- Making the bed every morning.
- Tidying my home before I go to bed.
- Taking frequent adventures.
- Spending lots of time playing with my pups.
- Eating local food.
- Supporting small businesses.
- Leaving a small footprint on the earth.
- Practicing yoga.
- Always learning.
- Personal growth.
- Spending a lot of time with my family.
- Checking in on my friends.
- Supporting the people I love.
- Doing away with TV and reading instead.
- Having space in my schedule for rest.
For me, living intentionally applies to everything. My home, my mind, my body, my faith, the food I eat, the job I have, and the relationships in my life. While it’s lovely to have all of these things working in unison and life is blissful, that’s often not your reality. You may kind of have it together in one area while another is in shambles. Let’s figure out how to begin having an intentional life when you currently feel in over your head.
How to start living intentionally.
Step 1: Learn your values.
You have to know what matters most to you in order to live out what matters most to you. I wrote an entire post about setting goals and in that, I share about discovering your values. I have a worksheet bundle for you if you want to discover your own values and learn to set goals. Download that here.
Step 2: Let go of what isn’t working.
Let me explain this one. How many things have you said yes to? How many jobs are you trying to do without asking for help? What relationships are you struggling through that you need to be honest with yourself (and that person) about? What negative thoughts are you telling yourself over and over that are not helping you be the best version of yourself? GIRRRLLL, let that go. We can only make progress when we face ourselves. You have to be honest with yourself and realize what isn’t working. And only you know the answer.
Step 3: Pick one area and start there.
Don’t try to have a simple home, a thriving marriage, eat only local food, and hire a housekeeper in one day. We all know it’s not that easy. ha! I know you can’t do all of those things tomorrow. This stuff takes time. But start. Pick the one area that you deeply desire to improve the most and start there.
- Cleaning out your attic to finally get rid of the things you’ve been hanging on to for too long.
- Sitting down with your husband to have a hard conversation about what needs to improve in your relationship.
- Making a phone call to support a friend.
- Committing to giving up Diet Coke.
- Finally taking a workout class.
- Turning the TV off two nights a week and picking up a book instead.
- Hiring a life coach. I had to. 😉 Seriously though, you might need someone to come alongside you and coach you through all of those thoughts that are holding you back and help you begin this journey. It can feel overwhelming. I help you make it possible. Book your clarity call and let’s get you to an intentional life.
That’s how you start. That’s how you take steps to the life you desire. You don’t scroll through Instagram and wish for it. You DECIDE and then you work for it.