You are overwhelmed. Let’s just say it. You have a full schedule, an overflowing closet, bathroom drawers full of products you don’t use, and more emails in your inbox than you could read in a year. You desperately want to stop feeling overwhelmed.
So, where do you start? Do you already feel more overwhelmed just thinking about it all? I know you do and I’m here to help, friend.
Before we go into all of the stuff you have and the emails and text messages you haven’t replied to, let’s begin with your thinking. I know, that’s the last thing you want to do, but hear me out.
I say this over and over, but your thoughts create your results. Brooke Castillo‘s thought model is that your thoughts create your feelings which drive your actions which create your results. To put it simply, the reason you have the RESULT of an overflowing closet, an excess of emails, and more products in your bathroom than you could ever use is because you had a THOUGHT that led you to a feeling that led you to take the action that got you that result.
How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed Part 1
Here are the steps:
1. Notice Your Thoughts:
What does that even mean? You have approximately 60,000 thoughts a day. Most of those are subconscious. And you are operating from those thoughts, whether you realize it or not. The first step is to notice those thoughts. Pay attention to the things that run through your mind. Do you think about how much you have to do, how you didn’t get up as early as you wanted, and how you wish things in your life were different?
2. See how they feel.
When you think about how much you have to do, how does that feel? Overwhelming, exhausting, or heavy. Those feelings are held in your body. Notice that. Ask yourself where you feel it in your body? In your chest, in your gut, in your jaw? Where do you physically feel the emotion? Overwhelm is a feeling. That’s it. And feelings can change. You have all of the control over your feelings.
3. What action do you take when you feel overwhelmed?
Do you waste time? Do you scroll Instagram instead of organizing your inbox? Do you shop for more clothes instead of organizing the ones you have? Pay attention to yourself. Notice your habits.
How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed Part 2
1. Ask yourself which task/issue is bothering you the most.
Are you constantly afraid you missed an important email because your inbox is so full? Are you spending so much time looking for what to wear only to wear the same thing over and over because the laundry basket is easier to access than your closet? Are you spinning in your head because you agreed to several work/social/side hustle things that you can’t keep up with your own schedule?
Choose one to start. Your closet, your inbox, your schedule. Pick one. Let’s go from there.
2. What do you think most often about that thing?
Do you beat yourself up for saying “yes” too often? Do you think you need new clothes because you “have nothing to wear”? Do you hate even looking at your phone screen because of the large number of unanswered notifications?
3. If you could think differently, what would you want to think?
That you are organized. That you can put things away. That you can create one label in your inbox and sort that one category. That you are good at managing your time. That you know when you say “no”. That you know your capacity for work and social events.
4. Start with that one thought.
Choose the one area and the one thought and start there. Your thoughts create your results. When you tell yourself you are capable of doing one thing, notice how it feels in your body, and take action. Don’t overhaul your entire life. Choose one area. One topic. One thought. One task.
Need help with this? If you don’t think you can tackle it alone, get help. Coaching is the answer, friend. You’ll go from having no idea where to start to having a clear path and the steps to make it happen. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and let’s do this.